Mind your own business

In the age of social media, posts shared will normally be flooded with comments and reactions (like, dislike, love, angry etc.). We were conditioned to give a fuck on everything, to react on everything we saw, to type away comments without even thinking through our mind.

Of course, that’s the whole point of “social” media right? Some may argue, but browsing through and you will realize how much of those comments were real conversation, and how much of those were just rubbish. The more we react, the more our data are captured by the platform, and ultimately the more information about ourselves were leaked to those platform to sell it for a profit. But that’s a whole other discussion for another day.

What I’m trying to point out here is: there is no need for us to react to everything. The same goes to the photography world. When someone posted their work, shared their view, if you think they are poorly done, you can give a constructive comment instead of replying: “crap” for instance. If you don’t plan to provide valuable feedback, one might as well don’t react to it and just keep things to yourself.

I’m not asking everyone to stop commenting or reacting to something. Instead, provide quality comments when you intend to react to something, spur discussion, that way everyone can learn and benefit from it. If you do not plan to provide valuable input, you might as well just mine your own business.

This was part of the reason why I’m reducing my screen time on social media, it felt more toxic and taxing to visit one, and I just want to cut the crap out of my life so that I won’t be “reacting” to them as well. Anyway, you view could be different from me, so feel free to have some constructive discussion on this topic if you wish to. Till then.

Half way through the year of 2020

We are half way through the year of 2020. Already? Yes, time flies. It has been a rather quiet year for me so far.

I’m not sure if I should feel glad about it, but I do felt lucky that nothing major was in my plan this year, especially some big personal goals. It was originally planned to be a quiet year for me… and oh boy, quit indeed so far for the last 6 months. Due to the pandemic that is happening now, the world has almost grind to a halt. A lot of things had happened, both good and bad. I’m glad that I’m still hanging in there, surviving through the days.

As the world started to turn again, people started to move on and live their lives with the pandemic. Dubbed as the “new normal”, people started to return to the streets, shops are reopening, the pace of our lives started to pick up once again. There are still a lot of uncertainties lying ahead. Whether will vaccine be discovered, whether life will return to the “old normal”, whether if there’s another pandemic coming and so on. Well, nothing much you can do by just worrying over something. Just get ourselves prepared for the unknown, and live our lives as much as we can for the time being.

The only “major” event planned this year is for me to travel again by end of the year. I doubt it will ever happen, but there’s nothing else I can do but wait for now. Just wait and see what comes and then work accordingly. In terms of my life, my work… no major changes so far. Still the same as 6 months ago, and I’m still working hard to get better and improve little by little.

Stay safe everyone. Let’s hope the second half of 2020 will be better. Till then.

I’m not afraid of dying

Yes, seriously, I’m not. Why? Well, what’s the point of feeling afraid and anxious on something that you can’t even control?

“But I want to live longer… I’m still too young to die…” as some said. I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum. I wanted to die young, if possible. I don’t need to live my life up to 70s, 80s or 90s. Some may argue that they are working hard everyday and their life has just begun after their retirement in 50s. Some said they want to see their kids grow up, graduate, get married and have their own family.

For me, I want to live and enjoy my life now, like… now. I don’t want to save all the enjoyment until my retirement, I don’t want to pinch my happiness on unknown circumstances in the future. Like what I had always said, live your current moment to the fullest, live as if today will be your last day of life, live without regrets for tomorrow.

Therefore, it is important to balance my work and personal life, it is important to work a job that I enjoy, it is important to live my life to the best I could. If I die tomorrow, I will not feel a sense of “life is too short”, I will be able to close my eyes and smile.

Of course, the reality is, I have no control over when I will die (that is until the time euthanasia is legalized and become a norm). So it doesn’t mean I will spend all my money just to fulfil my lust for materials and experiences. I am still saving for retirement and for emergency, in case I live that long. If not, the money can always be donated to those in need.

So… here I am today, trying my best to live my life to the fullest, and I hope you are too. All the best, till then.

Talk about habit

Go My Own Way

Habit, something we are used to, and something that we do unconsciously. Some have the habit of drinking coffee every morning, some have the habit of wetting their fingers with your tongue before counting cash. We all have some sort of habit, maybe you may not even realize it.

For me, I was so used to wearing watches that even when I’m not wearing one, I’ll still be constantly raising my wrist to check out the time, and I will feel rather “insecure” for the rest of the day for some reason.

Recently I had picked up a new “habit”… I have been wearing glasses for over 20 years, and last year I had lasik for both of my eyes, so there’s no longer a need to wear glasses. However, my old glasses wearing habit still persist. There were times I tried to “take off my glasses” before washing my face, there were times when I still shield “my glasses” from water spray or rain droplets. The worse was sometimes I felt that I can see things clearer when I’m wearing glasses, despite the glasses is actually just cosmetic without any prescription.

The same goes to photography. Say you are easily drawn to something and you unconsciously groomed the habit of photographing the same thing, even worse if it is at almost similar angle or composition. Some have the habit to shoot things dead centre, some have the habit to over-saturate their photo during post processing.

I believe it is hard to avoid having any habits. The key point instead will probably be whether or not you are aware of your habit, recognize it and stop it when necessary. Maybe you can make that your “new habit” instead? Till then.


终于把这本书完成了,这是2020年的第一个Personal Project,也是续上一本书《字己》后的续集,许多没来得及畅谈的话题,延伸讨论等都会聚集在这一本书里。这也许也是现在的我唯一可以完成的吧,毕竟现在大家都只能窝在家里,努力抗疫。